By Vanessa Burton / Tue, Oct 13, 2009
In a world of supersize cars, jobs, meals, and just about everything else, it’s hard to stop thinking about whether bigger is actually better for everything. Men are competitive when it comes to their ability to satisfy women, and unfortunately after years of locker-room comparisons, the go-to source of pride or shame is the size of that with which they’re working. So, does penis size really matter? Well, yes, but you’ll be shocked to find out for whom it really matters.
Striving to be the best is par for the course; while your date-night antics don’t necessarily qualify as a sport, and you won’t be in the running for an Olympic medal this year, peak performance is always on your mind, especially when it comes to sex. As we all know, it takes more than height to make a great basketball player, and more than biceps to make a standout football star. The same can be said for savvy lovers who have better sex — physical equipment isn’t everything when it comes to knocking it out of the park, and women aren’t shy about singing the praise of skill over size.
Unfortunately, not all guys seem to believe those women so we’re going to rely on science to reassure you that the size of the package isn’t more important than the method of delivery.
It’s all in your head
OK, it’s time for some scientific facts and figures to put to rest some of the outlandish claims and myths circulating about whether or not penis size matters and what’s normal for the vast majority of men out there. A comprehensive worldwide study of more than 40 independent penis size research projects, undertaken since 1942, has come up with a general penis size guideline. With over 11,000 participants, the survey puts the average erect size of the adult penis between 5.5 inches and 6.2 inches in length and 4.7 inches and 5.1 inches in girth.
If the science doesn’t do it for you, and you’re still wondering “does penis size matter,” then the study also took a look at perceptions of size and asked more than 50,000 heterosexual men and women how they rated their own size or the size of their partner. They found that 85% of women were satisfied with their partner’s penile size, but only 55% of men were satisfied. Notice anything? The women were much more forgiving and didn’t feel like they were dealing with inferior goods if they weren’t being bludgeoned with porn-star worthy penises. Chances are that women within measuring distance usually have better things on their minds than finding a ruler, and if they don’t, penis size probably shouldn’t be your first concern.
What she’s thinking
Do you think you could accurately identify what 5.0 inches looks like within ¼ inch? Yeah, we didn’t think so. And guess what, most women couldn’t do it either. The variances in the middle ranges of penis sizes only offer up about ¾ of an inch from the low-end to the high-end of the scale, including racial variances that have seeped into popular culture, but remain largely unsubstantiated in the scientific community. So, unless you are the proud owner of a significantly smaller (under 4.0 inches erect) or significantly larger (over 7.5 inches), your partner’s ability to identify your exact size and judge you on it are pretty slim.
Every penis is different and just like women’s breasts, each has its own set of characteristics and there isn’t much consensus on what makes an ideal member. Even so, women seem to be in agreement on a few things in this department: If given the choice between larger-than-average size with below-average skills and average size with above-average skills, there is no contest, skill beats size every time. However, if it makes you feel better, keep her perspective in mind. When you look down and catch a glimpse of yourself, the vantage point won’t be as kind as when she’s seeing it up close and personal. If you’ve ever employed your fingers to help a woman with an itch, you’ll know that they are much smaller than a penis and that she seems to like them just fine.
Logistical notes on penis size
Now that you have a handle on your size and what she thinks of it, it’s time to put her under the microscope. The vagina is a pretty adaptable thing and can comfortably accommodate both large and small penises with the same relative degree of comfort. Translation: There’s no physiological reason for a large penis being inherently preferred over a more modest one. In fact, the vagina of a woman who hasn’t had a child is only 3.0 inches long when she’s not sexually excited, and even when she’s aroused the average increase in size is only about another inch.
Even if you happened to be packing an impressively long-barreled pistol, anything over the average is going to waste anyway — there wouldn’t be anywhere for those inches to go. Couple that with the fact that the first third of her vagina (the third closest to the opening) is the area that houses all of the nerve endings and is, therefore, the only area that actually registers sensation. The end result: According to a recent survey, 90% of women prefer a wide penis to a long one because increases in length do little to enhance her physical pleasure.
Get in the game
Worrying about your penis size or lamenting your lack of it won’t do you much good in the long run, if anything it will hurt you — and your chances for better sex. Being self-conscious will put a kink in your confidence and will probably prevent your next sexy encounter from having any kink in it. While studies report higher numbers of sexual conquests for men with larger than average penis sizes, that statistic can be a bit misleading. Since it’s doubtful that the women were aware of the size prior to getting into bed, it can be argued that the increased number of sexual partners was a result of confidence and comfort rather than size itself. Fortunately for you, confidence is a much easier thing to come by than a few extra inches.
If you are truly concerned with your ability to fulfill your woman, try to learn all you can about satisfying her all round, and learning tips, techniques and positions that can maximize what you’ve got. If that doesn’t work, a quick trim of the hedges can give you an extra visual inch to impress her with — not that you should really care about penis size that much in the first place.