David DeAngelo on how to deal with Her Special Occasions
So, here’s the problem: If you meet a girl that you really like, at some point early on in the relationship some type of holiday or occasion is going to turn up (Valentine’s Day, New Year’s Eve, her birthday, or some other one). You don’t want to look like a total jackass by doing nothing — I get it. Here’s just a little bit of advice: You can make the occasion fantastic without being a Wuss. You can do something that will blow her mind without coming across as a needy, clingy, girly-man who is trying to impress a woman because he doesn’t feel worthy.
Here’s an example of what most guys do: Call her up, tell her that you really like her, ask her where her favorite restaurant is because you want to take her there for her birthday, ask her what else she’d like to do, and then keep asking after she says “I don’t care what we do, I just want to have fun” a hundred more times.
Here’s what to do instead: Call her and say, “Hey, put on something cute tomorrow night and be ready at eight. I’m going to pick you up.” If she asks what you’re doing, just say “Be ready, no questions.” Pick her up, take her to dinner, choose the food, and then bring her home and put a candle on a cupcake and sing her happy birthday. No asking her what she wants, no telling her where you’re going and no seeking her approval. Get the difference? If not, read it again. There’s a way to do everything without coming off Wussified.